When we lose someone close to us, we face the hard but important need to grieve. It is the spontaneous, individual expression of the feelings and thoughts associated with the lost person. It is a difficult process, sometimes even frightening, painful and often lonely.

It is completely normal to feel shocked, confused, helpless or to feel that our emotions are dulled. What many do is seek support from people close to them, friends, relatives. Of course, not all people are willing to do that. Sometimes feelings of helplessness could cause worry and they prefer to deal with it themselves or talk to someone who will not be directly affected by the loss of a loved one. Sometimes people choose to continue going to work, university or school, for others it is difficult and challenging. It is important to know that for each person this process is, in itself, individual and unique. When the feelings we are experiencing seem unbearable, it is good to seek help in the face of a professional with whom we can talk openly about the loss we have went through. At such moments, we fear that we are weak, ashamed and we blame ourselves. In those exact moments, talking to a psychologist is very helpful. It is important to know that there is nothing shameful or wrong with the way you feel and that seeking professional help is our personal choice that helps to deal with difficult thoughts and feelings. A good psychologist could understand how we feel and help us deal with difficult emotions and thoughts. The office of a good psychologist can become this safe place to talk openly about your feelings without fear of being accused or reprimanded.